The 1 Year From 30 Post!

I am officially 29 years old! One year left to the big 3-0!

What does that actually mean, though? Does it mean anything at all? To me it does. I’ve been seeing a lot of fuss regarding the life change from 28 to 29 to 30. I’m not quite sure why…so…

I think it’s time to do 29 Reasons Why 29 is the Best Thing Since Sliced Bread…

29. Um…hello! It’s another year, another day, another moment in time to continue living!

28. As up and down as 28 has been, it was still the most fabulous year ever…so 29 is poised to be even better!

Okay. 

So I won’t do 29 reasons. 

What I will do, in all seriousness, is go through the top 10 things I am looking forward to in my 29^th year of life…

10. The growth of my catering and personal chef business. 

9. The publishing of not one, not two, but three different books. (Details to come) If I can accomplish that, babeee….!!

8. Another three to four inches of growth on my locs. (I wanna whip my hair back and forth!)

7. A renewed relationship with my own energy and my higher power.

6. The 30^th birthday cruise that is in the works. (Ladies, look out for the email, allyuh know who you are!)

5. Getting down to at least a size 12. If I can do a size 10, even better.

4. A continually prosperous and enlightening relationship with the ride or dies and friends that I have.

3. A better relationship with my family, but most specifically my mother.

2. Continued blessings and a positive relationship with my daughter.

And the number one thing I am looking forward to in my 29^th year of life?

1.       Continued happiness, blessings, and whatever love is out there for me, in whatever form it comes.

Cheers! =oD

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The Romance Seeker

Wanted: purple tinged hyacinths with a sole calla lily, accompanied by a walk along the water’s side/snuggling up by a fireplace/strolling along the beach at sunset (options for the seasons). Must appear interested in actual conversation without forgetting to subtly compliment said companion. Should close the evening by being escorted to one’s door and a kiss good night. Home cooked meal – basket style optional.

See? I told allyuh I could be a girl sometimes.

My cousin and I got to talking about relationships and romance. She asked me the same question that I posed on my Facebook page: “Do you believe in romance? What is the most romantic thing you have ever experienced?”

What prompted this blog was the amount of time that it actually took me to answer that question.

Huh.

I’ve been on dates before. Granted, my dating history is limited – I didn’t start actually dating until 2005, close to 2006. (I’m not kidding.) Prior to that I’d been in an on again, off again, why-did-I-DO-that-again relationship with the father of my child.  I was a serial monogamist in my younger years, and when I would try to date, I would find myself in a relationship with said person, and then the dynamic would change. Apparently, in the relationships that I was in, dating was not a necessity – why date? You already got the guy/girl!

At least, that’s what my then boyfriend explained to me.

As single as I am now, I realize that my dating experience is still rather limited. The most dating I’ve ever done was this year – I got two…nope, three whole dates out of them before they disappeared. I suppose that’s all for the best, though. Everything happens for a reason. At any rate, there were those three dates, plus enough to count on one hand that I’ve ever been on. Not a one included flowers, or anything that might be considered romantic.

What the hell is romance, anyway? Merriam-Webster (oh come nuh, allyuh know I does define tings already!) defines romance as, “: to try to influence or curry favor with especially by lavishing personal attention, gifts, or flattery”. From what I’ve been told of myself, I’m ‘pretty confident on my own’, I’m ‘easy going and don’t appear to demand much attention’, and, my personal favorite, ‘I thought you’d be insulted if I got you something. I know how you independent women are’.

Now. *scratches head* I’ve never been the type of independent woman to demand that everything be done the way I’d want it done, in the sense that…ok, the easier way of putting this is, I’m not that ‘Destiny’s Child Independent Woman’. I don’t refuse gifts; I’m not a bitch about my independence. I always say that I am independent by need, not necessarily by desire. (It’s hard to explain.)

With all that said, I can honestly say that I can’t truly think of any instance where there was a romantic overtone on any of my dates (barring one shared milkshake date which I still think was really cute). For the most part, I’ve been told that my laid back demeanor and understanding nature leads to…whatever. Insert something.

So as I ponder this latest rambling thought process, I ask you: Do you believe in romance? What is the most romantic thing you have ever experienced?

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The Cumulus Cloud that is Sex, Love, and Marriage

So this past weekend, my Dashing Divas (we shall call them Chef (me), International, Fashionista, and Ivy League) and I went to Atlantic City to release some tension, go on vacation, and...well...be divas, of course. We got the chance to hang out and be splendiferously (yes, this is a word today) fabulous. Check us out! 

 

Now. During one of our many visits to the various casino buffets (I've been eating better, so I kept it healthy), we got to talking about relationships. And sex. And more relationships. But definitely about sex. I love hearing different points of view on matters of the heart, amongst other things. We touched on some taboo topics (which I will not elaborate on to protect the innocent...*wink*), as well as some deep seated matters of the heart. We talked about sugar daddies, older men, the perfect wedding, getting what you want out of a relationship, the definition of love, etc. One of the more interesting topics that came up were the extent that one would go to in order to ensure happiness. 

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        

So I asked myself: what do I need to be happy? I mean, there's my daughter. She's a big portion of it. There's my business. Being a business woman definitely makes me happy. My family and friends, of course. But when it comes to that romantic happy, that happy when your soul stretches every morning, it smiles and then the world smiles with you, that 'I cannot wait to see (insert partner's name or nickname here)' giddyness...well, what do I need for that to be happy? Am I even prepared to be happy? Allyuh already know how I feel about relationships and love...

So I ask you, my readers: what are your requirements for romantically emotional happiness? Speak...ponder...discuss...

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The Happy 101 Award!!!

Hi everyone!!! This is blog post 1 of 2 tonight, and I couldn't be more thrilled to be posting both!!! 

First off. It's been an awesome and amazing week. I got some fantastic news related to my catering business. As SOON as I get everything confirmed, I will be certain to tell you, my lovely blog readers, all about it!! My daughter also received her 5th Student of the Month award for the YEAR (my shorty doo wop's awesome), and I got an award, too!! 

My homegirl Dee from Life in the D Lane (shout out to her across the world, she's in Greece jet-setting right now) gave me the Happy 101 Blog Award!! The Happy 101 Blog Award is an award given to bloggers by other bloggers who think their blog is awesome and well written. Dee's blog is awesome, she has a great following, and she writes SO well (not to mention our JHS alma mater is THE BEST, I.S. 383 stand UP! - yes, I said JHS), so to receive this award from her is an honor. Thanks, Dee!! Besos! 

Now. The deal with this award is three fold. 1. In the next post, you must thank the person who gave you the award. 2. Name the 10 things that make you happy. 3. Pass the award on to 10 bloggers and inform the winners.*

Dee's friend Demetria of Love is Dope, who gave her the award, came up with a little amendment that I'm going to honor here:

"It’s time consuming to put together a list of 10 bloggers and inform them and all that. I’ll say to the folks I am giving this award to that if you can’t do 10 blogs, do five and say something nice to or do something nice for five strangers this week. Let’s spread the cheer online and in real life, folks!"

Okok. So here goes! 

Five things that make me happy:

1. My daughter 

2. My family and friends

3. Cooking and feeding people

4. Helping people

5. Reading and writing

And the five blogs that will be receiving the Happy 101 Blog Award...

1. Farrah Barnes at The Box Chronicles

2. Sidik at Corner Boy Jazz

3. Mika at the life and times of mika matsumoto

4. Trixie at Splendid Serving

5. Brent and Nabeel at Our 2 Cents.

Congrats, all!! *cheeses*

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