The 1 Year From 30 Post!

I am officially 29 years old! One year left to the big 3-0!

What does that actually mean, though? Does it mean anything at all? To me it does. I’ve been seeing a lot of fuss regarding the life change from 28 to 29 to 30. I’m not quite sure why…so…

I think it’s time to do 29 Reasons Why 29 is the Best Thing Since Sliced Bread…

29. Um…hello! It’s another year, another day, another moment in time to continue living!

28. As up and down as 28 has been, it was still the most fabulous year ever…so 29 is poised to be even better!

Okay. 

So I won’t do 29 reasons. 

What I will do, in all seriousness, is go through the top 10 things I am looking forward to in my 29^th year of life…

10. The growth of my catering and personal chef business. 

9. The publishing of not one, not two, but three different books. (Details to come) If I can accomplish that, babeee….!!

8. Another three to four inches of growth on my locs. (I wanna whip my hair back and forth!)

7. A renewed relationship with my own energy and my higher power.

6. The 30^th birthday cruise that is in the works. (Ladies, look out for the email, allyuh know who you are!)

5. Getting down to at least a size 12. If I can do a size 10, even better.

4. A continually prosperous and enlightening relationship with the ride or dies and friends that I have.

3. A better relationship with my family, but most specifically my mother.

2. Continued blessings and a positive relationship with my daughter.

And the number one thing I am looking forward to in my 29^th year of life?

1.       Continued happiness, blessings, and whatever love is out there for me, in whatever form it comes.

Cheers! =oD

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Sagittarius Season! The Facts

If you're a Sagittarius, stand up!!!

From November 22 to December 21, Sagittariuses rule the time frame. As a Sagittarius myself, I am personally excited that it is my season. Granted, it is ALWAYS my season, as I LOVE being a true Sagittarius, but I am particularly thrilled that it is my season currently. This means that my birthday's coming up, and it means a year older and about three years wiser for me. 

Don't know anything about Sagittariuses, or astrology? Here is a quick crash course: 

Astrology is "the divination of the supposed influences of the stars and planets on human affairs and terrestrial events by their positions and aspects". (Merriam Webster Online) It is deemed a superstitious belief in the sense that it is based on a concept that is infallible or omnipotent in nature. However, the astrologists that study the constellations and their position can argue that each constellation sign is connected to a series of like characteristics that, when processed for a certain period of time, reflect the people born within that time frame.

With that said, here are some facts about the sign of Sagittarius:

·         The sign of Sagittarius is governed by the Greek mythical being the centaur. The centaur symbolizes mankind’s dual nature as an intellectual creature (the human half) which was also a physical animal (the horse half). (Scopes)

·         Sagittarians have a positive outlook on life, are full of enterprise, energy, versatility, adventurousness and eagerness to extend experience beyond the physically familiar. They enjoy travelling and exploration, the more so because their minds are constantly open to new dimensions of thought. (astrology-online)

·         They have both profound and widely ranging minds, equipped with foresight and good judgment, and they can be witty conversationalists. They love to initiate new projects (they make excellent researchers) and have an urge to understand concepts that are new to them.

·         A fire sign, Sagittariuses are prone to get along with other fire signs such as Aries and Leo, both romantically and on a friendship level. As a fire sign, however, this gives Sags a generally quick temper.

·         Sagittarians have an often blind faith in people, and in the world. Their optimism is infectious, although it can get them into trouble from time to time. These are curious people who love to learn. Their idealistic nature is hard to miss.

·         Sagittarius people see themselves as warm-blooded folk. They are, but they sometimes run roughshod over others' feelings during their more passionate debates. They can be blunt with people, although if they have a more tactful Mercury placement, this quality will be subdued. Their direct, blunt approach is most obvious in bed. They're passionate lovers, and are turned on by open-mindedness and good humor.

To all of my fellow Sags…does this sound like you? To those who know Sags, does any of this sound familiar?

Discuss…

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A True Sagittarius Kisses...and Tells

There's an old adage that goes, "You can catch more bees with honey than you can with vinegar". Or maybe it's flies.


(OK, look. It's about 7:30 in the morning and I haven't had my early morning nap yet. I'm not sure.)


At any rate. Often times, I will encounter a person or people who will challenge me verbally and I will ever so sweetly tell them where they can stick it. I've been told that because I say everything with a smile, especially the not so nice stuff, some people miss the "insult", and, as my best ride or die notes, "the people you talk to arent as intelligent as you so they dont even know you're being mean half the time". 


(That's a direct quote, by the way. I still insist I'm NOT mean.)


All jokes (sorta) aside, one of the traits of a Sagittarius is their omnipresent honesty. It is said that the Sagittarius woman is joyous in general, which is good "because it helps to take some of the sting off of their very honest, often blunt, reactions to the world around them". Other astrological assessments include their "refreshing honesty", as well as  "self-righteous and seriously opinionated, those weak in integrity need to slip away quietly".


Now. Whether you believe in astrology or not, the fact remains that every Sagittarius I know, without fail, including and especially myself, possess all of the above traits. There are times that I find myself cringing slightly as I speak my mind, wondering, "now why in the hell did I feel the need to say that?" This trait carries over to relationships, of course, as do most things. Even as recently as three weeks ago, I was asked why I liked someone, and I answered the question honestly. I was wondering where the hell the "Undo" button on Gmail was RIGHT after I sent it, though, because I instantly realized that I had said way too much. 


And yet, sadly, I wouldn't take back a word. 


I rarely want to. I just wish that the filter that I installed oh-so-many-moons ago would work the way that I asked it to! I decided a while back to try something new, release the safety net that I would hold on to so dearly...and yet, I have a difficult time shutting up sometimes! I was talking to another one of my ride-or-dies yesterday, and she expressed some of the same sentiments about a gentleman that she knows. I listened to her...and then I told her what to expect from this Sagittarius gentleman. And as I told her what to expect (if the trust is there, expect their whole life story, followed by weeks of silence because they realize they're revealed too much), I realized...oh sheesh, I really do the exact same thing! 


Aw...just HELL.


So I've decided to turn over a new leaf. I am going to keep my feelings about many things to myself and save the outbursts for my ride-or-dies who understand and will not look at me with the side eye. (at least, not in public). Let's see how long that lasts...


Do you believe in the zodiac? In astrology? How true do you think your astrological sign is to your personal nature? If you felt you talked or revealed too much, how would you handle it?

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Happy Born Day, Chica

So today...my homegirl would've been 29 years old. 


It's pretty ironic how much you find yourself remembering when someone leaves you before what you think their time should be. You may remember my bittersweet ode to the loss of my friend a few months back. Some of you who are reading this may find it interesting how much her passing affected me, particularly when you consider that I had cut her off, as I have with other friends-of-the-moment. 


But my chica was no friend of the moment. She was a friend, even when we weren't speaking. I didn't realize that...until she was gone. It always happens that way, doesn't it?

Elie Tahari's 'Tan Fierce' Shoe (her fave designer)

And to me, that is the true definition of a friend. One of the things about my chica that I will never forget is her overwhelming sentimentality when it came to the celebration of a birthday. Before her, birthdays were...ok...I celebrated them, but not really. With my birthday being so close to Christmas, I always got 'lost in the sauce', so to speak, but my chica treated every birthday as if it were a national holiday...and it eventually rubbed off on me. Before long, I was celebrating birthdays in grand style. I still do. She did, indeed, teach me the value of that. She also taught me about shoes. Now, if you know me, then you know that I love me a good shoe. Always have. My chica taught me how to appreciate a flyyyyyy shoe, as opposed to a fly shoe. She would also encourage me to pay myself 'first', something that I definitely did not do often. (Still don't. Not like I need to.)


Now, again, this is not to say that life with my chica was all fun and games. Part of the challenge when two passionate people become friends is that the passion from each side threatens to over take each other. I learned a lot about myself from the time I turned 20 to my current 28 years...and every year was an evolution from me. With my chica, her process was a bit slower...and eventually, it came down to leaving her behind so that she could grow. From what I learned...she definitely did. It is true that sometimes, you have to walk away from someone for them to become the person that they need to be. I just wish that I would've made that call when I got the urge to. I'm pretty proud of her evolution. Just wish I could've told her so. 


Well, anyway. Today, I've gotta find a way to go drop off some calla lilies and pralines for my friend for her birthday. Maybe I'll grab some Robert Mondavi Cabernet Sauvignon for her, too. I'm sure He won't mind if I leave her some. She always appreciated a good red wine. 

Rest in peace, my chica. And happy birthday. =oD 

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