Cyber Stalking - LAME!!

I was talking to a friend of mine the other day and they were telling me about an ex of theirs who was tracking their movements through Facebook via other people's pages. After my initial reaction of disgust ("you're using my page to do WHAAAT?") I stopped and pondered for a minute. Maybe there was something to this cyber stalking thing.

(guffaws) Like hell there is! How lame can you get?

I mean, let's think about this for a minute. You and your boo-of-the-moment are doing your thing, enjoying your sexing 'living in the moment', and then, suddenly, the moment's passed and one of you moves on but the other one doesn't. They are caught in the trap of good sexing 'living in the moment' and have it confused with a committed relationship. You know, the ones where the two people actually have relations outside of the 4 am relationship. That sort of thing. So now, shorty's desperate. They're trying to figure out what went wrong, where it went wrong, and what they can do to rectify the situation. Problem is, nothing was wrong necessarily. It is, simply, that the moment has passed.

The average person might chalk it up to experience and either vow not to get into that type of jump off relationship again. Others, such as the one my friend was referring to, begin to send out 'feelers' via email and/or text message to see if they can get the other party to bite. Or they decide to "follow up" with their former 'friend' through other mutual friends, all waiting for the opportunity to 'relive the moment'. Sigh.

Now. In my typical informative rambling manner, I must go over some key things. A 'moment' is defined by Merriam Webster Online as "1 a : a minute portion or point of time : instant b : a comparatively brief period of time". See that? Brief. Simple. Moments such as the 'buddy' relationship last for a 'brief period of time' until one of two things happen: the two parties decide to turn it into something more, or they decide to go and pursue what they really want, hereby ending the 'buddy' relationship. Simple. Sometimes, one or both parties don't know what they want, so they run and hide and avoid how they truly feel. This is rare. This is not the norm. Having many male friends, I have heard from their experiences that this is the exception and not the norm. Imjustsayin. LOL.

So anyway. If you find yourself going to look at your cut buddy "friend"'s page, and you catch yourself following them from page to page to see what they're up to, or you find yourself asking mutual friends ridiculous questions about their actions, press pause...back up...and reconsider. There is a good chance you're cyber stalking and thus being lame. Don't do it.

Have you ever known a friend to 'cyber stalk'? If so, what did you say to them? Have you ever been the one 'cyber stalking'? What did you do once you realized what you were doing?

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