Locs and the Ever Eluding Patience

I am currently approaching my first month of having 'locs'. On Thursday, I will get my hair washed (Oh thank GOD) and re-twisted. In this month, I have gone through quite a bit of self discovery and self examination. My loctician explained to me that the first six months of having locs is an exercise in patience: my locs will become frizzy and look slightly unkempt before eventually smoothing out. I looked at my hair today...frizz galore. Clearly I've skipped three months. And I've kept them tied when I wasn't running around. So I dunno. Sigh....

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Trust, Vulnerability, and the Purple Headed Monster

Picture this: your throat gets dry, your heart starts racing, your urge for some pholourie and buss up shot (or maybe BBQ chicken) is just GONE...butterflies in your stomach is the understatement of the year. What the hell is this? This is bull-sheet!Nah, it's just being vulnerable. If you're like me, the very thought of opening yourself up and showing someone else the softer side of you (or maybe just showing someone you, not even the softer side necessarily) causes your very being to freeze in place. With allowing yourself to be vulnerable and...

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Keeping it Real When None of the Above Apply

So interestingly enough, I got a lot of positive feedback on this early morning blog, both on here and on Facebook. One of the questions I've gotten (which is a question I pose myself) is: what if none of the usual stigmas apply? Then what? Hmmm. What if you've managed to get yourself into an undefinable, un "timed - not 12 pm or 4 am" relationship? In other words, what if you're just not sure? I've been there before...and while I can't say that I've done or are doing the right thing, I can say what might be your best bet:1. Look at the clues that...

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Keeping it Real? Uh, no...

You don't want the real.Seriously, no one REALLY wants the real.We run around, putting up these blogs and catchy one liners "I'm looking for a real (fill in the blanks)"But, let's put it all out there and keep it 'real' for once. What dude wants to meet a chick with the goggle eye glasses and the dry ass eczema or psoriasis patch on the 1st date? Wouldn't you rather go out with the shorty with the expertly applied M.A.C. face, designed to 'look' natural? Don't front, you know it's true... And ladies, come on now. We all say, "he's gotta be motivated....

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How "West Injun" are Yuh?

I compiled this list from various other lists of different nationalities. One thing I have noticed about us Caribbean people (read: West Indian) is that more often than not, we have many attributes in common. Below is a very condensed list. Being that I myself am Trini and Bajan, you might find more of that than others. However, I have tried to be as fair and impartial as possible. Despite the way we sometimes behave, we are all one.With that disclaimer written...come selector!You know you're from the West Indies when.... - Any hot beverage is...

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Spoken Word of KP's Past

QUASI FEMINISTICi think its too late to be a woman ...too late for the mystery to developtoo late…for ladies to emerge from this 21st century…thing we call womenbecause ladies can be women but honey…these women are definitely. not ladies.we've traded in the feminine mystique for the 9 to 5 dealand we became working mothers but weforgot that being a mother is workand I told you before, you're gonna be pissed at mebut I think the feminist movement is all for naughtbecause we're getting what we wantbut at the cost of ourselveswe forgot our balanceand...

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Motherhood & Being Single on the Cusp of 30...and Children's Clothes

I took my little girl school clothes shopping today. Spent 200 dollars easily. SIGH. What annoyed me about this process wasn't spending the money, but the fact that I had to purchase jeans for her 2 sizes bigger than her actual size. Why, you might ask? Because the jeans that they had for little girls are cut like the jeans they have for GROWN WOMEN. I mean, skinny jeans for a 6 year old? What the hell does a 6 year old have use for skinny jeans?? And you know what's worse? The damn things have the nerve to look GOOD on her...But seriously. What...

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Marriage and Love and Iowa

So I traveled to Iowa to see my old coworker/friend get married. Of course, every time I mention that I'm going to Iowa, I got "um...Iowa? What's in Iowa?" LOL. After a while, it became a running gag. Anyway...The days leading up to the wedding were not without stress...the cake, the dresses, doing the junior bridesmaid's hair (never before have I EVER met someone so tender headed - she is worse than my niece), y'know, typical pre wedding issues. But there was no bridezilla here, no obtuse or unreasonable groom...the two people getting married...

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People Who Should NEVER Raise Children and the Society that Allows Them To

I know it's been a bit of a gap between my posts, it's just been a bit hectic these past few days! But anyway. People who ain't got no blasted business with nobody's children. So I take my daughter to the park today because it seemed to be a going to the park kind of day. I sit down on the bench in between a woman and a couple, and before I could even get comfortable enough to watch my kid go down the slide, I hear: "you f&$@!? B$@?!, sit your a?! down before I kick your a&?".Pause. Lemme breathe and ask this lady who she's talking to before...

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