Time Management and People Who Have None

Time Management and People Who Have NoneI am a busy woman. Always have been. And, like most people, I have very limited time on my hands. Therefore, when I have free time, I cherish it. So when someone cannot balance their schedule and I am forced to frivolously waste my time...I become a bit irate.Why is it so difficult for people to a. Manage their time effectively, and b. Respect other people's time enough to let others know when they can or can't do something? It is something that rather infuriates me. I know thy things come up from...

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Pride is my Deadly Sin...What's Yours?

What’s your deadly sin?Mine is pride.I know, I know. How wack is that? I was talking to my ride or die about my pride and how difficult of a time I have asking for help. As with most things that run through my mind, I have a tendency to want to go and look up the things that I’m thinking about, in my quest for useless yet endless knowledge. The Catholic Church’s assessment of the Cardinal Sin of pride “is identified as a desire to be more important or attractive than others, failing to acknowledge the good work of others, and excessive love of...

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When Life Gives You Lemons, You Put Them in Scotch!

Vintage blogging as it's finest! I wrote this a month or two ago and posted it to my Facebook account. It's still relevant, so enjoy...So here I am...this is me, who I am. I am a people person who does NOT like people. People are unreliable. They have flaws...which is fine, because so do I, but the fact of the matter is that people depend on you do to certain things. They look to you when you're talented and when you have a lot going for you and when you seem friendly and giving, that is when you get taken advantage of.I like scotch. Scotch has...

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Success vs. Romance

Success is defined by Merriam-Webster Dictionary as “the attainment of wealth, favor, or eminence”. For most people, acquiring success comes through a career oriented goal, be it a job, the beginning of a business, the expansion of capital, or some combination thereof. Seemingly at the opposite end of the spectrum is romance. Most people look for someone to compliment and/or complete them. The question then seems to be, what's more important, being successful alone or being happy with someone? And is it actually that simple?I came up with the question...

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The Crush vs. Being in Like

I was thinking earlier on today about how I felt about guys that I have encountered romantically and whether it could be considered a crush or being in like. I know that even recently, mention someone's name and I might be reduced to blushing and all sorts of unlike KP stuff. In addition, some of my students of late have been coming to me, seeking out advice on their latest "crushes". So, I decided to throw out an FB (Facebook) status with my thought provoking question of the day: What's the difference between a crush and liking someone? Here are...

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Being Not Afraid and the Death of E.Lynn

Let me start with E. Lynn. According to AP reports via his publicist, E. Lynn Harris, New York Times best-selling author of African American fiction such as "Invisible Life" and "If This World Were Mine", passed away on July 23 at the age of 54 due to a heart attack. It also alluded to additional health problems that caused him to rapidly deteriorate recently. This is actually the first I am hearing of E. Lynn being sick. If you don't know the significance of E. Lynn Harris to the literary world, he is credited with bringing many of the DL behaviors...

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Remembering How to Pray

I don't remember how to pray. I know that some of you might feel like it's easy, just talk to God...but I have a love/hate kinda thing going on with him, and with my faith right now. It's been that way for years. This blog's not going to really be that long, mainly because there's a whole lot about it that I think about and not a whole lot that I know how to put into words necessarily. For the most part, I don't remember how to pray because I feel like I did my part for years and saw no results. It's the logic in me. And before you get to castigating...

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Dreams, Nightmares, and the Blasted MTA

So this morning I woke up in a cold sweat, and it wasn't just because I realized I had overslept. I had this nightmare that shook me to the core and confused me all at the same time. In it, I married an ex of mine...I won't even go into the other crazy aspects of the dreams but for those of you who are reading this that actually know me, if I told you who it was, you would fall out. And of course, it terrified me beyond belief.It also brought to the forefront a recurring dream about marriage that I've been having for years now, always at seemingly...

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Making A Change

I wouldn't be a true Caribbean gyal if at some point I didn't discuss some politics. Growing up, many family dinners were rife with discussion on the state of our home countr(ies), the state, the US, name it. I have inherited the bug. So here we go...I am a doer. Point blank. I believe that so much of our time is spent analyzing and planning and discussing and not enough time is spent doing all the things we discuss and bemoan. Now, granted, do some things have to be discussed? Of course. If we all decided to jump up and mash up de place because...

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Being Lonely in a Crowded Room

Being Lonely in a Crowded RoomIt's interesting when emotion finds it's way into your spirit. Sometimes, it happens at the most unusual times.Have you ever been in a room full of people and yet, felt more alone than when you were by yourself? Like the activity was just all around you and you were the one just chilling in a bubble? It happens to the best of us.When these things happen, as they often do to many people, you find yourself asking why. Is it that you have too much on your mind to enjoy yourself when you're out? Is it that you're...

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When They Lose Interest

When They Lose InterestWhat happens when you're digging someone and, for no apparent reason, they lose interest and you are left wondering if you're the crazy one? I mean, everything was going so well...right?The thing is...when interest is one sided, it's usually apparent to everyone but the interested party. The other thing to keep in mind is that very rarely does someone lose interest overnight. It is usually a gradual thing, again, noticeable to everyone but the interested party.For me, I find myself interested in the ones that I know...

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The Mystery of the Big Girl

So those of you by now who haven't realized this...I am a big girl. Have been all of my life. Well...no, that's not exactly true. When I danced 6 days a week, I was a size 9/10. But even that is big...for a dancer, anyway.But enough babbling about that. This note is about the 'big girl' stigma.And there is a stigma, believe me. There are some people who still look at the big girl and wonder how she got to be that big, or if they like themselves that size, or who loves a girl like that...today I got someone who told me that I would be sooo pretty...

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Thursday Night Shenanigans...smh...

So most of you who I know that may be reading this know that I tend to have interesting Thursday afternoons (or evenings). When I was taking class on Thursday afternoons last quarter, I had a classmate that used to put his feet up in the classroom, with no shoes on, and go to sleep in the middle of class. For those that don't believe me, the pic above is proof.This is my last...

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Tears for my Coffee...

I am a coffee addict. I am a coffee addict. I am a coffee addict. I had to say that three different ways. That is how much I adore coffee. I adore its subtle nuances, the way that it perks me up in the morning, its texture and flavors, everything about it. There was one time, when I was working as a program coordinator, running three programs at once, that I would easily devour two grande cups of Starbucks in any given day. In fact, my assistant program coordinator made me give up coffee that year, and substitute the high I would get from it...

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The Switch

I always marvel at how easily my emotions turn on and off...to the point that I wonder if it's even healthy. When faced with a potentially emotionally draining situation, I do one of two things: turn on or shut off.What does that mean? Well, today, my horoscope said: Sagittarius: Something hidden will be revealed little by little today. Are you prepared for the consequences? Start planning, so you're not blindsided.Now as of late, my horoscope has been 98% accurate. Today was no different. Just the other day I was actually stressing over...

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Going Back To Love

If you're reading this, raise your hand if you've ever been in love. *crickets creak, tumbleweed rolls by me in the classroom*So maybe I'm being a little melodramatic. It's what I do, I can't help it. I thought I was in love...a few times. I've been in relationships where I thought that I would do whatever it took to make sure that this relationship worked. One of these subsequent relationships resulted in Michele Alexa. She is my pride and joy.And then after that, love don't live here no mo'. LOL.I mean, that's not true. Love is an objective thing...

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The damn rat and why it makes me paranoid now...

So last night, my best friend and I went out to karaoke for our friend's birthday. We had a nice time...the birthday girl was sufficiently inebriated, and all was well...until we got to the train station. Now, I don't know how much you all know about the NYC Subway System. It's over 100 years old, probably the oldest subway system in the country. As a result, it is in desperate need of repairing, or, more importantly, cleaning. Another thing about the NYC Subway System is that there is a slight rodent problem. I say slight as probably the biggest...

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25 (or 27) Key Ramblings bout dis Caribbean gyul...

1. My left elbow itches every day at 10:45 pm. Don't ask me how I came to this conclusion.2. I tried to curb my annoyance when stupidity strikes. It hasn't worked.3. Tact is pointless when abused. If you're going to use it wrong, you might as well just say what you're thinking.4. I had a discussion with my inner voice today. After I realized that my inner voice might just be androgynous, it occurred to me that the average person might think I'm talking to myself. *shrugs*5. I'm working on this promising people things.6. I'm still learning how to...

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Being a West 'Injun', Part 3

Okok. I ain't kno if dis is de last installment of this series...but I hea, eh?LOL. Okok. So this is about our loss of culture. Seems to be an epidemic, huh?Eric Williams.Grantley Adams.The West Indian Federation.Hispaniola.If none of those names sound familiar to you, then you've got some reading to do. LOL.Or maybe you don't. It may be of no importance to you. But to me, it is a sad thing. I hear a lot of people when we're out in the club, fussing about soca music or reggae music, saying they don't understand what they're saying. Truth is, sometimes,...

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